What Real Support Looks Like–And What It Doesn’t
This post started as an Instagram reflection — but it’s really a journal entry for anyone who’s ever felt abandoned during hard seasons.
In the wake of my surgery and healing journey, I’ve seen firsthand the difference between people who show up out of love and those who disappear out of convenience.
Support isn’t just about being present when it's easy.
It’s about being present when it's inconvenient.
It’s action — not empty "thoughts and prayers" with no intention behind them.
After surgery, I learned that some people were only “supportive” when the spotlight was on me. But when the silence set in, so did their absence.
Real support checks in without needing to be reminded.
It doesn’t just check the box — it checks on you.
I’ve learned that true support feels safe. It’s quiet, it’s consistent, and it doesn’t always need to be public.
It simply says: “I’m here. Even now.”
I’m not writing this out of bitterness.
I’m writing it because someone out there needs the reminder:
You weren’t crazy for feeling let down.
I felt it too.
But I also found new people — unexpected ones — who made me feel deeply seen.
Those are the ones I’m building with.
Those are the ones I’m healing with.
💬 “Support isn’t always loud. Sometimes it’s quiet, consistent presence. That’s what saved me.”
This was just one chapter of my healing.
If it spoke to you, you’re not alone.